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When you start a business, there will be challenges that pop up along the way that you don't anticipate. One of the biggest challenges that catch people by surprise is crippling self-doubt. This feeling of like, I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy, who am I to be doing this? I say crippling self-doubt because everyone expects there will be some degree of doubt. It's the magnitude of it that can take you by surprise. But self-doubt is a normal part of the entrepreneurial journey and here's why:Inside of us, we have two parts. One part is full of self-doubt and anxiety and fear and doesn't want to take any chances. That part wants to keep you safe. And then there's the other part of you that wants to strive, reach out and go for that higher potential. These two parts are in conflict and each has its place Who doesn't want a part that's going to keep you safe? That's a good idea, actually. But then who doesn't also want to reach for potential? Be aware that those two parts exist inside of you, they're not going to go away, but learn how to tap into the most appropriate part for the situation at hand. When you need to show up in your business, when you need to provide, when you need to serve a client you're going to tap into the part of you that knows how to show up, that knows how to stay focused and knows how to get the job done. The one that's got the confidence, charisma, drive, and energy. At other times, when more caution is needed, you'll want the safer part of you to help out. Both parts of you are very acceptable and need your love and attention. Just remember to tap into the part of you that's going to serve you best. With love, Melissa PS If you're ready to begin a journey of transformation so you can show up fully in your life and business, with more joy and ease, I have 2 VIP coaching spots open for June. Let's jump on a call for a chat and make a plan that works for you.  I would love to invite you to our new growing network of beautiful mums in business. Support and be supported, promote businesses, learn, grow and get help. It’s Australian Mums in Business in 2020 If you’re interested and you feel our group could be helpful to you – We’d love to have you. You can join and access this free group right here. Get into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there. 
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I've decided that whatever I'm feeling is ok. I've been riding the emotional rollercoaster the past few weeks for various reasons and like most people, when I'm down, the self-doubt and negative talk kicks in. It doesn't feel nice and nobody wants to stay there for long. But life will always present uncomfortable times and the point is not to avoid the discomfort but to utilise it. Most people feel discomfort, immediately think it's wrong, or there must be something wrong, or they are wrong. They get stuck in the discomfort as if it's a solid wall, and look for ways to go around the wall, usually in some form of escape like alcohol, too much TV, overworking etc. A better approach is to recognise there's a door in the 'wall of discomfort', look for the message in the discomfort (key to the door), process what's underlying the discomfort (open the door) and walk on through to something new. Processing discomfort or dissatisfaction requires three steps:
When you learn to view your discomfort as an opportunity for growth rather than a dead-end, it gets easier to accept all kinds of feelings, not just the good ones. I'd rather grow through the process than spend my life avoiding. Funnily enough, I feel better already just knowing this. How do you feel about this? With love, Melissa PS I'll be talking more about the three steps on socials, so make sure you tune in to one of my groups - details for both are below if you're not already a member. PPS If you're ready to begin a journey of transformation to more joy and ease, less getting stuck, I have 2 coaching spots opening up for June. Let's jump on a call for a chat and make a plan that works for you.  I would love to invite you to our new growing network of beautiful mums in business. Support and be supported, promote businesses, learn, grow and get help. It’s Australian Mums in Business in 2020 If you’re interested and you feel our group could be helpful to you – We’d love to have you. You can join and access this free group right here. Get into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  And I said to her, “that’s fantastic! I hope you're acknowledging yourself and the steps you’re taking towards your goals”. And she said, “yeah, no, not really. I'm just, you know, I do that and then I get to the next thing and then the next thing and the next thing”. Sound familiar? Do you fail to acknowledge yourself and the progress that you’re making? Are you celebrating yourself every step of the way? The big achievements, the tiniest little things, and even the times when you're not really achieving in the way that you‘d hoped? What if you try something and you fail? Are you celebrating the fact that you tried? Are you celebrating that you gave it a shot, that you got past your fear and found the courage and tried it? So it didn't work out. You learnt something, you are now wiser on how not to do it and you can celebrate yourself for trying. Acknowledging yourself every step of the way, noticing your progress, makes you feel good. Progress makes us feel good. It makes us feel happy. It's a win-win, you feel better about yourself and you are naturally going to take more action as a result. Here’s to feeling good and taking inspired action.With love, Melissa PS If you need some help to get back on track, feeling good and taking action, let's jump on a call and make a plan that works for you. PPS The Aussie Mum's in Business group is growing into a beautiful new online community below. Details are below if you'd like to join us.  I would love to invite you to our new growing network of beautiful mums in business. Support and be supported, promote businesses, learn, grow and get help. It’s Australian Mums in Business in 2020 If you’re interested and you feel our group could be helpful to you – We’d love to have you. You can join and access this free group right here.  Mothers Day Special Giveaway If you're one of the incredible Mums doing it all and running your business at the same time, here's a gift for you. I've become more disciplined with my morning routine over the years but I know how often it can be a struggle to find enough time or energy, to really take excellent care. I created the 'Calm Mums Do Biz Better' meditation with this in mind. It is a quick and easy way to begin your morning that allows you to tune-in to Self, fill up and set a powerful intention for the day ahead. My gift to you. Enjoy 💜 If you're not a mum, perhaps you know one who would love this? You can get the download here: Get into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.   Mothers Day Special Giveaway If you're one of the incredible Mums doing it all and running your business at the same time, here's a gift for you. I've become more disciplined with my morning routine over the years but I know how often it can be a struggle to find enough time or energy, to really take excellent care. I created the 'Calm Mums Do Biz Better' meditation with this in mind. It is a quick and easy way to begin your morning that allows you to tune-in to Self, fill up and set a powerful intention for the day ahead. My gift to you. Enjoy 💜 If you're not a mum, perhaps you know one who would love this? You can get the download here:  I would love to invite you to our new growing network of beautiful mums in business. Support and be supported, promote businesses, learn, grow and get help. It’s Australian Mums in Business in 2020 If you’re interested and you feel our group could be helpful to you – We’d love to have you. You can join and access this free group right here. Get into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  Last year in 2019, I learned a crucial lesson that I think is pretty relevant to anybody who's not feeling 100% fulfilled and excited about their life or their business right now. I spent most of the year chasing goals that were exciting and compelling, but they weren't really feeding my soul. They were kind of empty in a sense that the goal itself wasn't lighting me up from the inside out. The thing is there's always an underlying FEELING to any goal that you have. That feeling is more important than the goal itself. Let's say you want to build a six-figure business. What's more important than the goal of earning or making a $100,000 is the feeling that you believe that it's going to give you. So what is that for you? Is it freedom? Is it security? Is it comfort? Do you think it's going to bring you a sense of ease or well being? Take a moment to identify for yourself what the feeling is because when your goal is driven by the feeling that you want to achieve rather than the thing that you want to have, you'll find it so much easier to stay inspired and motivated. A $100,000 for the sake of having $100,000 if you don't even know what you're going to do with it or what that's actually going to bring you, feels a bit soulless. It's an empty goal and then you'll find that it becomes a stressful target rather than an inspiring thing to reach for. Make sure you can answer these questions for each goal you have. 1. Does this really light me up from the inside out? 2. What feeling is it that I'm aiming for with this goal? With love, Melissa PS If you need help with clarity around your goals and finding the courage to go for it, reach out to me for a chat about how you can take positive steps forward. PPS Aussie Mum's in Business check out my new online community below.  I would love to invite you to our new growing network of beautiful mums in business. Support and be supported, promote businesses, learn, grow and get help. It’s Australian Mums in Business in 2020 If you’re interested and you feel our group could be helpful to you – We’d love to have you. You can join and access this free group right here. Get into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  Are you frozen with fear and uncertainty or are you taking action, creating something new? So many people I talk to are unable to move forward because they let the confusion and doubt rule the day. It's like they are waiting for some lightbulb moment when it will all become clear and then... Did you know you can decide your purpose and your mission for yourself? You don't have to wait for it strike you in some major epiphany? When you decide on something it's going to put you into action and you are going to live a much more meaningful life than if you are sitting back and waiting for the answers to come. They probably won't magically fall out of the sky and hit you on the head anyway. But if you choose something that gets you excited and you commit to it, you're going to have a fabulous time along the way. And if down the track, you decide that's not really it and you want to change your mind, that's perfectly okay too. You haven't wasted that time. You've learned new things, you've grown, you've become better, you've got more clarity around what you want and what you don't want. You've had experiences and you've most likely made contributions to other people in their lives. So, if you're one of those people that's sitting around waiting for that neon sign, please don't wait another moment. Start asking yourself some good questions, decide what you've got a passion for and go for it. With love, Melissa PS Sometimes we can't see the forest for the trees. This email is full of colloquialisms which my copywriter friend told me never to do >> I might not be a great writer but I am great at helping you find clarity in your life and business... so reach out to me if you'd like to chat about how you can take positive steps forward. PPS Aussie Mum's in Business check out my new online community below.   I would love to invite you to our new growing network of beautiful mums in business. Support and be supported, promote businesses, learn, grow and get help. It’s Australian Mums in Business in 2020 If you’re interested and you feel our group could be helpful to you – We’d love to have you. You can join and access this free group right here. Get into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  I don't know about you, but I've been on an emotional roller coaster these past weeks. With so much uncertainty everywhere I've had to work double-time to keep my varying levels of anxiety in check. Here's one of the easiest ways that I know how to change how you're feeling in any given moment. This works so well, especially when you are feeling discouraged, when you feel like life's too tough, when you feel helpless or hopeless. When you feel like everything is a complete disaster. This is just such a simple, simple technique. The key is, of course, like anything, you have to do it. Have you guessed it already? It's gratitude. Gratitude is one of the most powerful ways to change how you feel, not only in the moment, when you feel overloaded or overwhelmed, but to change how you feel about your life. So, if you are having a tough time at the moment, and there's so much going on at the moment, get yourself into gratitude as often as possible. Think about what you're grateful for. It's really, really simple, right? But it's a total game-changer. Write down three things every morning that you're grateful for. Write down three things at night that you're grateful for. If that's not enough, do it more often. If you're having a moment of despair, go to gratitude. That's it. Warning - don't be like most people who think it’s a good idea, but then don't actually write it down. You have to write it down. You have to think about it, feel it, write it down. It's so, so simple and I promise you within just a couple of times of doing that, you are going to feel so much better. With love, Melissa PS If you want to claim back your power and get moving on building your dreams, let's chat. We'll jump in the phone and work out the best way forward for you.  Get into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  Dissatisfaction in certain areas of life is something I help clients with every single day in my business. There have been plenty of times in my life when I haven't felt satisfied when I been unhappy in some part of my life. It might have been finances, business, a relationship or my health and what I want to tell you what I tell everyone. If you are feeling dissatisfied it's time to get excited. Get excited! Because what it means is that you are getting to the point that you're ready to make some changes. As long as you're comfortable in your life, in your circumstances, you won't do anything. People aren't motivated enough to make any changes without a reason. Pain and discomfort are great reasons that will light a fire under your butt. So if you're feeling unhappy about some area of your life it means that you're getting to the point that you're going to say "enough is enough!" This is the point when you actually want to do something and you have the power to change it. Until you get to this point of dissatisfaction, you'll do nothing. We have an unprecedented opportunity in front of us now to re-evaluate and reset our lives if we choose to. Now is the time for those upgrades you've dreamt of and turning your dissatisfaction into action. Remember, life is beautiful and life can be extremely satisfying, but you're the one who's responsible for making it that way. If you're dissatisfied, it's time to get excited and do things differently. With love, Melissa P.S. If you are ready to show up more powerfully in your life or in business I've got a special offer on 90min Personal Power intensives (details below) for one more week.  Personal Power 90min Intensives on sale this week If you're experiencing a major dose of uncertainty right now (that's manifesting in anxiety, fear, in-action, stress, sadness anger etc.) but you'd rather be feeling calm and confident, read on... I'm opening up 90min personal power sessions for this week and next. - clarity and perspective will help you feel sane - reassessment of your life and biz will give you direction and focus - creating a plan to move forward will bring more confidence and actionable steps - and tapping into your personal power will help you feel better and show up for yourself, your family, your team and your community 90 min PP sessions are on offer this week for just $197 AUD (normally $450 AUD). If this sounds like something you need, send me a message for details or book yourself here at a day and time that works for you. Let me help you get back on track and take charge today 🤩 Jump into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  How are you handling the rapidly changing world around you? Calm? Chaos? Overwhelm? Stress? Anxiety? Excited? I've spoken to a lot of different people this week and there's a lot of varied reactions. From my heart to yours, I hope you are doing well. If you aren't doing so well, know that it's ok too. We each process the unfolding events in our way and at our own speed. My mission is to help you as much as I can with the tools and resources that I have available. This week I've created a 9 part video series, which I've put out in bit size segments (just 1 minute each) so it's easy to understand, easy to digest and easy to note the main point. You can follow the whole series (as they are released) at Melissa Kay Coaching or jump to your favourites. Video 1 - When you can't control the situation Video 2 - Stop giving away your power Video 3 - How you should be feeling coming soon... Video 4 - Choose what actually works for you Video 5 - An easy way to find more certainty Video 6 - Easy take charge of the moment Video 7 - Are you focusing on the right things? Video 8 - Move out of the stress fast Video 9 - Practising personal power or excuses Enjoy these tips and don't hesitate to reach out if you need help. Stay well and stay safe. With love, Melissa P.S. If you are ready to show up more powerfully in your life or in business I've got a special offer on 90min Personal Power intensives (details below) for the next couple of weeks. Would you like to take ownership of your feelings? You can take 100% responsibility. I’m ready to help you with clarity, confidence, courage and a plan to take action and turn your desires into your reality.  Personal Power 90min Intensives on sale this week If you're experiencing a major dose of uncertainty right now (that's manifesting in anxiety, fear, in-action, stress, sadness anger etc.) but you'd rather be feeling calm and confident, read on... I'm opening up 90min personal power sessions for this week and next. - clarity and perspective will help you feel sane - reassessment of your life and biz will give you direction and focus - creating a plan to move forward will bring more confidence and actionable steps - and tapping into your personal power will help you feel better and show up for yourself, your family, your team and your community 90 min PP sessions are on offer this week for just $197 AUD (normally $450 AUD). If this sounds like something you need, send me a message for details or book yourself here at a day and time that works for you. Let me help you get back on track and take charge today 🤩 Jump into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  You know that quote that everybody loves so much...  It's a really a great quote until the shit hits the fan and we fall into blame, criticism and victimhood. The quote is truer than true but most of us aren't very practised in taking full responsibility for how we feel. It's when "you said that and made me angry" becomes, "you said that and I chose to feel angry about it." It's when "everything is so uncertain therefore I'm afraid becomes "everything is so uncertain and I'm responding with fear." You can (if you want to) take ownership of your feelings. You can take 100% responsibility. In fact, it's one of the few things you do have complete control over at the moment. If you are ready to take charge of yourself and tap into your personal power and become your own best friend, grab a cup of tea and watch the video I made for my FB community a couple of days ago. In the video I share
I've decided to make it available to my wider community so you can watch it here even if you're not in the Empowered Life and Biz community (but get yourself in there too because that's where I'm offering daily content on living a powerful and joyful life). Stay well and stay safe. With love, Melissa P.S. If you are ready to show up more powerfully in your life or in business I've got a special offer on 90min Personal Power intensives (details below) for the next couple of weeks. I’m ready to help you with clarity, confidence, courage and a plan to take action and turn your desires into your reality. Personal Power 90min Intensives on sale this week If you're experiencing a major dose of uncertainty right now (that's manifesting in anxiety, fear, in-action, stress, sadness anger etc.) but you'd rather be feeling calm and confident, read on... I'm opening up 90min personal power sessions for this week and next. - clarity and perspective will help you feel sane - reassessment of your life and biz will give you direction and focus - creating a plan to move forward will bring more confidence and actionable steps - and tapping into your personal power will help you feel better and show up for yourself, your family, your team and your community 90 min PP sessions are on offer this week for just $197 AUD (normally $450 AUD). If this sounds like something you need, send me a message for details or book yourself here at a day and time that works for you. Let me help you get back on track and take charge today 🤩 Jump into my free Facebook community where all the action happens, tips, tools, giveaways and exclusive content for members. See you there.  |
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