3 HUGE Business lessons I learnt by taking 3 months off (from my Business)

I got slammed by all sorts of emotions earlier this year, each delivering an undeniable message to stop and reassess. I had an urge to get away from it all and I didn’t have a plan to do something better.
In the past I would’ve just pushed on through, ignoring the discomfort and perhaps even using that nervous energy to fuel a new project. 
Not this time.

For someone who’s usually pretty productive and organised, stopping, to do who knows what was scary! It felt kind of pointless and I felt kind of useless. It was hard to slow down. 

6 weeks went by, the time I’d committed to giving myself a break and I was only just starting to properly let go. So I kept going and 6 weeks turned into 3 months, of which I am only just ever so slowly crawling out of now. 

Time in hibernation taught me 3 invaluable lessons that I wouldn’t have been able to fully access whilst staying busy in my business. These are things you know intellectually, but until you have an experience that puts the spotlight them, you don’t take them on board. 
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So let me shine the light and hopefully, you won’t have to meet burnout or a dead end before you embrace them.

1. My Biz, My Rules (Your Biz, Your Rules)
You didn't get into business to have someone else to tell you what to do. You can work for a boss if that’s your thing. So why look around so much? Do you look to others for all the answers and wait for permission to do things? Even after years in business I still held onto this idea that everyone else knew what they were doing but I couldn’t trust myself. Do you trust yourself? 

If you don't know HOW to do something you want to do, then you ask for help. But you can quit feeling guilty or ‘less than’ if you’re not keeping up with the Jones, the latest trends or doing all the things.  

You didn’t get into Business to feel time-poor, stressed, confused, overwhelmed or overworked. So create Your business to work in a way that works for you. 

• Only want to work 2 days a week? Do it. 
• Want to charge THAT amount? Do it!
• You hate doing Facebook lives? Don’t do them.
• Don’t want to work during the school holidays? Don’t.
• Instagram Reels make you cringe? Fuck them!
• Don’t want to work with 1:1 clients? Don’t then.
• Don’t want to be on social media every day? OK.

Do the things YOU want to do. Not the things you feel you should do, or your coach told you to do, or some social media guru says you can’t succeed without. 
Only. those. things.

Ignore the things that don’t feel good for you, that aren’t in alignment with how you want it to be and challenge your belief that there are only a couple of ways to be successful in business.

Why is this lesson HUGE?
Because if you’re not out to achieve your dreams the way you want them, you might as well be an employee and help build someone else’s dream.


2. Love the Core of the Business
Learn to love and honour yourself for no reason. Your worthiness has nothing to do with your productivity, your bank balance, or your social  media presence. Did you know you are equally worthy when you are doing absolutely nothing?

Take excellent care of yourself every single day because that’s what is needed to be successful in life and business. Nurture the core of your business which is YOU, otherwise there won’t be a business for long. What that looks like might be different for you and I, so figure out what you need to keep balance.

And here’s a good one, forgive your fuck-ups. No doubt you’ve made mistakes in your biz or gotten off-track at times. Let those things be lessons, forgive yourself quickly and leave the energy of blunder behind you so you can keep going with ease and grace. Learn to love yourself no matter what.

Why is this so important?
You deserve to achieve your business goals and dreams which can only happen when you do things in a sustainable way. That means a shit-ton of self-love and care to protect the heart and soul of your business.


3. Choose what Floats Your Boat
What floats your boat it what inspires you, feels good and you damn well enjoy doing. As I mentioned once or twice before, if you don’t want to do it, don’t do it.

There are so many different ways to be successful in business. Choose the business model that works for you and doesn’t have you doing the things you hate. Work with the clients you want to work with instead of trying to appeal to everyone. Offer only the services and products that are joyful and inspire you. 
In other words, practice discernment within your business. 

Why such a biggie?
It’s exhausting to work in ways that you don’t enjoy. If you want to stay in love with your business, focus on the feel-good factor. 


So what’s the bottom line here? Know what YOU want and stick with that. 
Seek help to do things in the way YOU want to do them.
Forget the rest.

Over to You…
What is your Business Vision and are you honouring it? 
Tag me on the socials and let me know or send me a DM.

If you’re still working out what your beautiful Business Vision looks like, or the time has come to reassess, you can take the next step with my just released short course, Aligned to Success. You’ll be guided to design your compelling future (Business Vision), really figure out what you want it to be, and learn how to re-program your subconscious mind for that success.  Then you'll be doing life and business on your own terms, which is always my deepest wish for you.
Check it out here.
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Meet Melissa Kay (that's me)
A mother, partner, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring others to boldly pursue their big dreams. She owns and runs Melissa Kay - Out with the Ordinary, helping her clients to challenge their own status quo and finally create a life and business they truly love. 
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