Have you got a big ‘something’ that you’d really love to do but fear is stopping you from taking action on it? Is it time to finally start on that new business idea, get into public speaking, go on the adventure of a lifetime, or join that club with the cool social activities?
Most of us have something. The fear that keeps you stuck often shows up in the form of excuses that are easy to buy into, such as, I don’t have enough time for that, I can’t afford it, or I don’t have what it takes. And don’t forget the favourite procrastination lie, “I’ll definitely do it one day, but now is not the right time.”
Whatever excuses you come up with, they are all ways to keep you safe and comfortable, so you don’t have to take a chance on yourself. But here’s the thing, by not tapping into your courage and going for it, you are missing out on so much joy, fulfilment and personal growth. You might also miss out on a whole lot of fun, beautiful relationships, potential income, new skills and the magnificent ripple effect to all things that happens when you show up courageously in your own life.
As an empowerment coach, my job is to help you shine. So here are three powerful ways to help you find your courage and take that big leap, no matter what you are jumping in to.
#1 What’s the worst that could happen?
Ask yourself that exact question. If you say yes to yourself and leap big, what’s the worst thing that could happen? You might fail miserably, feel embarrassed, lose some money or be rejected by someone? Sounds horrible right?
The unfortunate truth here is that anyone who has ever taken a risk on something uncertain has probably experienced one or all of these things at some point. The good news is that they also had great wins because they took a chance, they recovered from any setbacks and went on to do great things in life.
The real fear comes when we believe that we won’t be able to handle the outcome, whatever it might be. People who feel confident to take risks, simply know that whatever happens, they’ll be able to handle it, even if it’s not pleasant, and they’ll move on. And I’d put money on the fact that you can think of an experience in your life when you thought you’d never recover, but one day you found yourself smiling and enjoying life again. First broken heart ring a bell anyone?
You are far more resilient than you give yourself credit for, so you must know that whatever happens, you will be ok.
But here’s an equally important question to ask and answer. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you say no and continue to live your life unchanged? Will you be kicking yourself and regretting it for the rest of your life? Will you remain unfulfilled and sad that your true desires continue to be ignored? Who will you become and how will you live if you don’t follow your dream?
Take time to answer the question and write it down. This may be just the leverage you need to leap big. I’m nowhere near my deathbed as I write this but I’m certain those regrets are going to be a real bitch when I get there. Whatever you want to do in this life, do it now while you have the chance.
#2 Get proactive about finding your courage
Don’t wait for the moments you really need the courage and then wonder where it is. You can start small and do little things each day to expand your comfort zone. Go try that new activity with a friend, video yourself speaking on do a Facebook live, talk with a colleague, coach or understanding friend about your new business idea.
Take little risks often to get comfortable being in the uncomfortable. You’ll quickly realise that you won’t collapse in heap and you’ll grow your courage muscles so they are strong when you need them for bigger things.
#3 Name and embrace your fear, then say goodbye to it
Fears that aren’t defined are deadly to your dreams and goals. Get super clear on what is actually going on for you by looking at and describing your fears in detail. Write it out. Give it a name.
Often just by looking at it, instead of suppressing, shying away from or covering it with excuses, it becomes less scary. This happens because the fear becomes clear instead of a big, dark monster in the shadows that you don’t understand and can’t predict. When you face your fear, you empower yourself to do something about it, and the solutions often quickly follow.
So my suggestion is that you look at it, name it, feel it and then decide you are going to take action despite it, because you realise you can handle whatever comes your way. Make that conscious choice to let it go, knowing that it doesn’t serve you.
Use the three powerful methods to transform your relationship with your fears and allow yourself to act upon those beautiful dreams you keep within. When you shine brightly, you make the world a better place for the rest of us. When you invest in your own joy and fulfilment, the return on investment ripples throughout all areas of your life. It simply takes a little courage.
I’d love to know what leap you are ready to take. Please let me know in the comments or write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Meet Melissa Kay
A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.
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Melissa Kay Schulz
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