You create happiness in life, it’s not something that happens by default.
Happiness isn’t just an emotional thing either. Research shows that happiness has a profound impact on your health, mental and physical well-being.
So it’s time to get your happy on with these top 7 habits for happiness.
#1 Know What You Want
Research shows that people who are clear on what they want, feel better in their life, and have more sense of purpose and direction. This makes sense because clarity helps you feel more peaceful, more at ease and more confident in what you need to do. Knowing what you want has been demonstrated time and time again as a key ingredient of success.
Sometimes knowing what you want can feel difficult, but mostly it's because you haven't taken the time to ask the right questions and work it out for yourself. When you know what you want you’ll get much better results in life, which is going to boost your sense of achievement, making you feel happier.
Find ways to have a good laugh, to relax a bit and not take life too seriously. Even just for a few minutes a day, when you can let go of your stress and busyness, find something funny, amusing or evening just smile at the absurdity of it all.
Laughter has been researched extensively and proven to have not only major emotional and psychological benefits but physical ones as well.
#3 Do Something that Scares You
What is something that you're actually afraid of, that you've been putting off, avoiding, or plain out refusing to do? It's time that you face up to your fears and make progress by actually tackling it, or at the very least looking at it. This is known as stretching your comfort zone.
Each time that you move out of your comfort zone, even if it's terrifying at the moment, it feels amazing afterwards. You’ll feel accomplished, proud, and more capable than you did before.
Tackling new challenges on a regular basis, doing something that you're afraid of each day, well lead you to a happier and more fulfilling life.
#4 Move It
We all know the physical benefits of physical activity but exercise is not just for your body. There is a strong correlation between your emotional and mental well-being and physical exercise. Regular daily activity is an absolute essential for a happy life. The bottom line is, it makes you feel good.
You don’t need to become a gym junkie unless you want to, but you must move every day. The key is to make your exercise fun so you actually want to do it. Go for a walk, crank up the music and jump around the house, take a yoga or dance class. If running, biking, aerobics or sweat sessions at the gym are your thing, do that too.
# 5 Give and Receive
This could be two separate habits, but I've put them as one because I want you to pay attention to keeping these in balance. Too many women are great at giving and forget about the receiving part.
Giving could look like contributions, helping others out, volunteering, taking care of family, donating money, time or energy. Giving brings a huge emotional feel-good factor to your life, contributing to your happiness. Find ways that you can easily give to others. Important - It’s not meant to be a burden. True giving should not be an inconvenience or cause you stress, it’s meant to feel good.
Find ways that you can receive. Receiving could look like asking for help, and allowing others to contribute to you. Be open to those who want to help you, know how worthy you are of receiving time, energy, gifts and money into your world.
Many women don't like to ask for help but this is something I ask you to get over right now. You don't have to be responsible for everything and everyone and there are people in this world who want to help you. Stop blocking the flow of goodness to yourself and allow others the joy of giving to you.
# 6 Gratitude
Focus on what is working, focus on what is going well in your life. Practice gratitude daily. One of the easiest ways to do this is to write down every day a few things that you're grateful for and a few things that are working well.
This simple activity will help you to slow down and notice all the good and abundance that is in your life, and the natural result is that you will feel happier. It will rapidly shift your perspective and perception. It's very easy to stay stuck and focused on the things that go wrong each day and totally miss the things that go right.
# 7 Forgiveness
Forgiveness is not about condoning something that has happened or letting someone off the hook who has done something unacceptable. Forgiveness is about letting yourself out of that dynamic.
You can't overdose on forgiveness and I suggest that you forgive everyone and everything that has ever done anything wrong by you. Remember it’s not about the other person or situation, this is about freeing yourself so that you can get on with living a full life.
Forgive quickly as things happen, let go, don't hold grudges, and feel how much lighter you become. There are simple practices that you can do to forgive and let go. Nothing, no matter how awful it might seem, is worth holding onto and feeling the pain of every day. You are only hurting yourself when you hold onto it. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness so that you can become who you are truly meant to be.
What’s next for you?
It’s time to show up more powerfully and joyfully in your life. You can grab the 7 Happiness Habits workbook for free (includes checklist and activities you can do today) and start creating more happiness in your life.
You can book in for a free 20 minute chat with me to discover how you can stop procrastinating and doubting your big goals, take charge and bring your dreams to life.
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A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.
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Melissa Kay Schulz
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