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This question has had my attention for quite some time now... How does one go from living a quiet life of desperation to living an inspiring, powerful, intentional life? Everyday! How do we do it? It’s something I keep obsessing about because I have a deadly fear of mediocrity. How do you function with all your responsibilities, relationships, children, a business to run, and still feel like you are truly ALIVE AND IN LIFE? Well, obviously I don’t have it all figured out. but I PROMISE you I’m getting major clarity around this for myself and my clients. In fact, it’s a big part of my brand new 2020 program (more on this soon). Today I want to offer you three of my top tips for feeling joyful and alive in your life: #1 Make sure that you plan fun things into your life. So damn simple and somehow so easily forgotten. What is it that brings you tremendous joy? Sit with that question for a few minutes, write down a few things and then make sure that you are doing them on a regular basis. Is it a date night with your lover or a trip to the beach? Is it a yoga class or reading a book with a cup of tea? Or is it something a bit more exciting like pole dancing perhaps? Whatever it is, stop it with the self-neglect and put it in your diary now. #2 When you are doing those fun things make sure you are present in the moment with them. I don’t know how many times I’ve gone to the beach and still been working in my head or still stuck in the stresses I currently have. When you are doing the fun things, let the rest go. Commit to being there fully, so that when you get home from the beach you don’t feel like nothing has changed. Engage fully in the activity so that you actually reap the benefits of that joy or fun or excitement. #3 Practice gratitude every day. Now you might say “oh Melissa not gratitude again, surely that doesn’t fix everything?” But let me tell you why I always come back to it. When you make time to acknowledge the good in your life, the things you’re grateful for, the things that are working, the perception of your life will quickly shift. If you currently feel like life is a bitch, if you feel like you’re living that mediocre, boring, dull, monotonous life, I promise you when you start to pay attention to the things that are good, you’ll start to feel differently. You’ll start to see more, and you may just recognise that it ain’t so bad after all. Let me know how you go with this and if you need help making a plan on how to make your life more enjoyable why not jump on one of my 30-minute strategy sessions this week. Just send me a message or you can find the booking link below. Whatever you do, don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you want some help on this. I hear you, I see you, I feel you and best of all I know that it can be different. With love, Melissa Book in for a free 30-min strategy session hereP.S. If it turns out that you seriously have no joy your pleasure in your life whatsoever, well my recommendation would be to use that as a good kick up the bum. Tap into that dissatisfaction and decide that you’re gonna do something about it today. Nobody else well. Then get in touch.  Are you a member of my free Facebook community yet? Not only is it where all the action happens, but there's also a lot of great inspiration, tips and giveaways too! Welcome. 
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I have ‘moments’ often where something isn’t going the way that I want it to and I lose my cool. This is especially true when the car in front of me is doing 80 in the 100 zone. Or situations where I start to feel sad or angry or frustrated or helpless. I'm okay with that because practicing resilience and getting better at managing yourself in any given moment doesn’t mean that you become immune to your feelings. And it doesn’t mean that you get to just avoid those feelings, or that you get to avoid the shitty situations that cause those feelings. It simply means that you bounce back quicker. You don’t get a free ticket out, but you get out faster. Like the ‘get out of jail free’ card in Monopoly. You still have to go there, but you don’t have to stay. Great right? Then you can get back to being your usual positive, happy or calm self quicker and get on with your day. The flow-on effect is that you get more done and you feel better more often. Your quality of life goes up dramatically. So here's what you can do if this is you too...There are a lot of ways that you can become more resilient, to manage yourself better in the moment, or to respond differently when things don’t work out the way you’d wanted. But nobody said it was easy. In fact, it’s something that takes practice. It’s a skill that you practice over and over again until you get good at it. Over the years I’ve gotten better at managing my emotions and coming back to myself quicker. But sometimes when I’m having ‘a moment’ I forget what I need to do. I just can’t even remember what I’m supposed to do! I might message my partner, expecting someone else to tell me what to do. His response is usually along the lines of “just take a deep breath, you know this will pass.” Such simple advice and usually works. So why is it that in the moment, with me knowing so much that I know, I can’t remember to take a deep breath and trust in the fact that this feeling will pass? Well, the simplified answer is because when your brain is in a state of stress, you can’t think straight. You literally are not functioning the same way as when you’re in a relaxed and calm state. This means that what you know now when you’re calm, is not what you know when you’re stressed out and reacting from a place of emotion rather than responding from a place of logic. So if you ever have that experience where you lose your cool and you’d like to ‘get out of it faster’ here’s one of my favourite ways to begin building your bounce back muscle.
xoxo Melissa PS Need more help to feel better in your life? Don’t forget you can book a free strategy session with me anytime. Let’s have a chat and see if I can help you get back on track. Are you a member of my free Facebook community yet? Not only is it where all the action happens, but there's also a lot of great inspiration, tips and giveaways too! Welcome.
Last week I stood up in front of a room of people and admitted that I, the mindset and positive transformation coach, had come close to burnout just a few months ago. I had let my game slip. I had forgotten to take the best care of myself and I had allowed the stress of life to get the better of me. I figure if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone. Only not everyone has the same skills and knowledge to recognise approaching burnout and the tools to make changes before they hit rock bottom. Once I began recovering (aka getting my shit together again) I decided to document the most effective things that I did for getting back on track. They are simple things, but they are often too easily overlooked in our busy lives. So if you would like to check out the essentials for staying on track with a strong mindset, you can find 4 short videos based on the talk I gave right here.
Melissa P.S. If you know someone who might need this info, just hit forward and send them this email. P.P.S. Next week I'm giving away a whole bunch of free 45-minute clarity coaching sessions. If you'd like to be first in to find out more before I announce it to my wider audience, just reply to this email and let me know you're keen.  Are you a member of my free Facebook community yet? Not only is it where all the action happens, but there's also a lot of great inspiration, tips and giveaways too! Welcome.
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Melissa Kay SchulzCoffee lover, mother, salsa dancer and mindset coach for entrepreneurs. 
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