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I know you’re excited and highly focused on growing your business and there’s so much to do. It really can be incredibly time and energy-consuming. All the more reason why I’m going to make a case for excellent self-care right now. You see, even when you love what you do, you can burn out if you’re not paying attention to the very heart of your business. That’s you! Without you, your business isn’t going anywhere. So if you’re pushing too hard, lacking healthy boundaries or neglecting your relationship, health, kids, friends, or whatever… take these 5 top tips to heart now and do something about it before it’s too late. [Quick note - burnout is not fun nor is it a badge of honour. It’s shit. Period.]  #1 Get organized in your business and in your life Grab your calendar or planner and figure out what needs to be done and by when it needs to be done. Plan, prioritize, and schedule your week so you know exactly what’s coming and roughly how long it will take. You’ll immediately feel more clarity and less stress, simply by having a good plan. And bonus benefit, when your brain knows what to expect, it’s much more likely to get on board so you actually follow through on your plan. #2 Communicate your needs to others Do you expect everyone around you to read your mind and know what you need? Check-in often with yourself on what you need, and learn to express it to your partner, children, friends, co-workers, employees, etc. Do you need quiet time to focus, time alone, a hug, someone else to do that admin task, a romantic dinner date, a friendly ear? Have the conversations with the people who can help and give them the opportunity to support you. #3 Learn to say no Stop feeling obligated to say yes to every single person who asks for your time and energy. You may even need to prioritize your work or your self-care over something you enjoy, like going out for coffee with your girlfriend on a moment’s notice. Plan it in at a time that truly works for you and doesn’t de-rail the rest of your day. Quit chasing every shiny object and rabbit hole in the entrepreneurial world. It’s the information age and you are signing yourself up for overwhelm and stress if you are constantly distracted and never completing anything. Pick what is relevant to your path and apply it. #4 Get enough downtime away from the business Life is not all work and no play and seriously, your brain needs to switch off from the business sometimes. It’s the only way to refresh and recharge and funnily enough, some of my best ideas pop up after downtime. Read a book, workout, take a walk, watch a funny movie, go dancing, or have a conversation with a friend about what’s going on for them. There are a thousand ways you can have downtime. I’d suggest doing what feels great and fills your cup. If you feel stressed and pushed for time as it is, schedule your downtime into your week and day and DO NOT skip it because you need to respond to that email or post about your lunch on social media. Everyone can find time in their week for what’s important to them. So it’s your time to make self-care more important. #5 Go outside and feel the elements We know that fresh air, sunshine, and nature provide amazing benefits to our minds and bodies. This one is particularly useful if you spend too much time in your office, staring at the computer screen. There’s a whole world out there and you’ll feel so much better for being a part of it. So drink your next coffee in the backyard or on your balcony, go for that afternoon walk on the beach or around the neighborhood and take time to notice what’s outside your four walls. Yes, there are a million other self-care tips you can use, but I wanted to dig deep and find just a handful that will have a huge impact on your wellbeing. If it still feels difficult to get started, just pick one, implement it for a couple of weeks and be amazed at the difference it makes. Let me know how you go with leveling-up your self-care so you can sustain your business growth and success. Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.  Ways to work with Melissa
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If I were less emotional I’d probably get a lot more done. But I’m not a robot, I’m a fully functioning human being, the real deal, messy as it can be at times. There is often a super high expectation placed upon the entrepreneur to be this high-performance machine, avoiding the lows at all costs and being productive all the damn time. How unrealistic are we? Perhaps you even hold yourself to that expectation (you wouldn’t be the first). Your emotions are never wrong! [ “What? But Melissa you are always saying I need to stay high vibe, feeling good.” ] Ok, let me explain. Your emotions always have a message for you and the more you look and listen, the easier it’ll be to work through the low times. Heck, nobody wants to stay in that feel-crap place right? I get it, you do want to be productive and moving toward your dream. Running in circles or having your feet stuck in cement just ruins your shoes. But you never want to make your emotions wrong. That is a surefire way to cut off your connection to your own truth and honest communication with yourself and others. Nobody wins with this approach. Instead of feeling ‘wrong’ when you’re not feeling good, many of the world’s best coaches suggest that you get curious instead. Learn to be ok in whatever the feeling is and search for the message it’s delivering. This is far more useful and can actually help you solve the problem.  Accepting your emotions and working with them rather than fighting them is going to feel so much easier and get you back to a powerful, beautiful, productive state sooner. You will bypass the suffering and get better at managing your emotions. Which is good for your sanity and your business. It’s helpful to remember that whatever uncomfortable emotion you are experiencing, you’ve probably been there before. Instead of crumbling every time things go wrong, you can remind yourself that you will get through it. You have evidence in your past, that the sun will shine again. So you’ve got this! You’ve been through it before and you can handle it today and if it happens again in the future, you’ve got that too. Which if you really think about it, is kind of exciting. Permission granted to feel any and all emotions, and tune in to what’s going on rather than suppressing it, and the confidence that whatever may come, you can handle it. Now you are mastering your emotions and building resilience and not wasting so much time and energy pretending everything is hunky-dory (for my overseas readers, that means alright) when it’s not. To sweeten the deal, the more you take charge of your emotional world, the more you‘ll begin to embrace the idea that you can, in fact, respond to events in your life, however you choose. But let’s dive into that next time. Want to learn more about emotional mastery? Connect with me in my community where we have great conversations about empowered life and business.   Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Join the Accelerator program - uplevel your life and business Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Get the free Design Your Life workbook It’s tough when you’re down and you feel like getting back up again is more effort than you can muster. There have been plenty of times in my life, business and relationships when giving up appeared to be the best option. The truth of life is that it will test you. It will ask you over and over to keep demonstrating your commitment, to show just how bad you want something. Why is it like this? Because life requires you to grow. If you’re not growing you’re dying and so it needs you to keep learning and evolving as a human being. As you strive for something better, something more you will have ample opportunity to pick yourself up again and keep moving forward. But nobody said it’s an easy ride, and so here are 10 things to remember when you’re in the thick of it and it all feels too hard.
You’ve got this! When it feels like failure, remember you are an amazing human being on a unique journey. Think of how far you’ve come already.  Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Join the Accelerator program - uplevel your life and business Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Get the free Design Your Life workbook  You’ve probably heard it, achieving your big dreams and goals requires you to grow as a person and get outside of your comfort zone. Oh, how much easier would it be if it were mostly strategy (the how-to) and hardly mindset and growth? Someone could tell you how to do, you do it and ta-da, it’s done! That is in fact, how many salespeople and business coaches present their product and draw you in, in hope of a quick and easy fix to your problem. Whilst their particular strategy or product is not wrong, it’s also not complete. The general consensus is 80% of the work needed to succeed at achieving a big goal is internal. And your success largely depends on whether or not you can get your thoughts and feelings under control. Thoughts and feelings. Mindset and emotions. The beliefs you have about things and the reactions you have to certain experiences. This is where it begins to feel too hard and most people either don’t know how to do the inner work or are afraid of the changes, so they continue looking for an easier way. They read all the books, try the next shiny strategy, hire the next business coach that promises their solution is what truly works. Unfortunately, none of it works unless you work. You have to put in the work, take the action, make the call, get out there. And what stops you from doing all that is your thoughts and feelings. The strategy is important and has its place. You are more important and need to work through your resistance, fear, procrastination, and doubt. Your big beautiful dream requires you to take action and that action requires you to stop sabotaging yourself because you haven’t done the internal work. The internal work is two-fold.
Mindset for Success Your mindset put simply, is the attitude and attached beliefs or ideas that you have about life and business. It determines how you will respond to and interpret different situations. Your mindset will determine how you handle setbacks in life and business. A poor mindset will see you giving up at the first hurdle. A mindset for success will allow you to meet the challenges, grow through them, learn from them, alter course as needed but always keep your eye on the goal and keep taking action and moving forward towards your success. True transformation Developing the right kind of mindset is absolutely necessary, getting positive, setting goals, implementing new habits. But there’s a deeper level to the internal work that holds the secret to unlocking the real transformation. The healing of old wounds and letting go of beliefs that don’t support your success is a powerful undertaking that creates lasting change and will stop you from self-sabotaging. It’s not the pretty, easy, or shiny solution but if you’re serious about your big dreams, don’t shy away from the very thing that will give you true freedom. When you learn to overcome your self-sabotaging behaviours you can create any level of success that you choose. I’m always continuing to work on up-levelling but I’ve come a long way from barely scraping by on a single parenting pension, to building a business doing something I love and supporting my family. From ‘how will I pay the bills?’ to 5-figure months and from living my life from a place of desperation to personal power and inspiration. I’ve even broken my history of disastrous, dependent, even abusive at times relationships and found genuine love, respect and stability. What is your big dream and are you willing to go all-in for it? If like me, one of your goals is to build a successful business that positively impacts the lives of others and creates financial abundance for you and your family, I have a special invitation for you below. Be willing to go all-in to have the life you want. You’ll never regret giving it your best shot. Ready to up-level your business and your life? I’m looking for 10 women who’ve had enough of the struggle in their business who want help to stop self-sabotaging and start creating real results in the next 2 months. Are you looking for help to grow both yourself and your business? I’ve created a powerful framework to help female entrepreneurs just like you, to overcome the self-doubt and procrastination in a 10-week experience. I’m looking for 10 ladies to join me as Beta Testers to run through the system. Would you like to join 9 other women dedicated to their dreams over the next 10 weeks to accelerate your success and become unstoppable? If you answered yes then go here for details.  Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.  Don’t wait for one day: 3 easy ways to turn your wildest dreams into actionable goals So you’re dreaming of something more, something better, something amazing for your life. You’ve got vision and big ideas, but where no clue where to begin. When it comes to your wildest dreams, finding clarity and getting into action can feel daunting. After all, these are the big, life-changers and how do you even make a start on something so grand? Below are three of my favourite, easy (because we like easy) ways to go from dreaming to doing. Number 1 See yourself in the future and break it down This one’s for you if you want your goal-setting to be fun and easy. Based on Rachel Hollis’ 10:10:1 rule, turning your beautiful dream of a better future into actionable goals doesn’t get much easier than this. Here’s how it works:
Number 2 The mega-list Another favourite is to brainstorm a mega-list of anything and everything you want to achieve in this lifetime. It goes like this:
Goals by life area If you’re more of a thorough, systematic individual, you may prefer this method to set goals in a balanced way in all areas of your life.
It really is that easy to come up with a list of goals for your life. If you’re feeling resistance to the idea of goal-setting, start small with your focus on only the next 12 months. Any of the above methods can be used for a shorter time period. Don’t forget the 3 most important goal-setting rules Plan from positivity. When you’re setting an intention or goal, be sure to do it from a high-vibe place of gratitude and an awesome attitude. You’re hardly going to set great goals if you’re feeling miserable or pessimistic, so get yourself in a high energy, feel-good state before you sit down to plan out your life. Goals must be specific and measurable. Be clear about what you want to achieve and how you will know when you’ve achieved it. Setting a goal to lose weight or make more money is neither specific nor measurable. Saying you want to drop 10 kilos before New Year or make $145,000 in the current financial year, is both. This kind of clarity allows to you make a plan for reaching your goal. One thing at a time. Setting goals is easy but taking action can get overwhelming if you let it. So only work on one big goal at a time. Seriously, do not try and overhaul your entire life in one go. It’s a recipe for procrastination and giving up. For sure you can have a few small and ‘not too difficult’ goals on the go at the same time, like drink a green smoothie every morning and talk with 5 potential clients each week. But those big, audacious goals of yours, best to take them on one at a time so you can focus your energy and go all in. So what are you waiting for? Put it in your calendar when you’ll do a goal-setting session and get the clarity you need to start bringing those beautiful dreams to life.  Need more help? Check out these extra resources: Visioning for success - a powerful free 30-minute guided visualization to step into your future [free audio download] Life design workbook - understand your priorities and create a clear vision for different areas of your life [free PDF download] 90-minute power session with Melissa - design your step-by-step action plan/roadmap for your next 90 days [book a session here] Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.  |
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