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Are you ready for a reset and a new beginning? A new project, relationship, or perhaps even a complete life overhaul. 2020 has been an eye-opener, causing me to step back and prioritize, get clearer on my values, and what's worth my time and energy. But it was in late 2019, after burning out in life and business, that I decided it was time for some serious change. I considered what it really takes to move forward and stick to a new path. Too often people start off well, but give up partway or fall back into old habits after a couple of months. There are 3 phases of creating a new chapter and I found when I spent adequate time in each, I followed through. I began using this 3-phase system with my clients and they followed through. It’s when we try and skip a phase that things don’t hold together. If you want to start something new and create lasting change, here are 3 phases that you must include:  1. Clarity is key to begin This is simply an honest look at where you're at, what needs to change, and a commitment to do so. Surprisingly so many people don’t have clarity on their situation. They know they’re not happy with the way things are but they don’t take the time to get clear on what they truly want. They just go for different! Well, different can mean a lot of things and if you’re not specific in what you want, your new destination can be just as dissatisfying as the old one. You’ve got to take an honest look at your starting point and your desired destination, so you can figure out how to get from here to there. How will you know what exactly needs to change if you’re not willing to be real about where you’re at now? Take time to get clarity. It’s not rocket science, it just takes times and asking the right questions. Clarity is key and when you couple that with a decision to go for it, a commitment to a new path, that’s when you create momentum in the right direction. 2. Don’t expect change if you don’t change You’ve got to transform yourself to meet your new, exciting destination. We are all capable of change but sometimes it’s easier to hold on to what you know and feel comfortable with. You want things to be different but you resist the change. Letting go of what stops you from changing, clearing out those old beliefs around who you are and what you think you’re capable of, is where the lasting transformation becomes possible. You don’t need to force the new, you need to let go of the old. Spend some time in this second phase, letting go of what holds you back so can truly create something new. 3. It only happens when you follow through Phase three means implementation. This is the part where you get organized around your new plans, take charge of yourself on a daily basis, and maintain awareness of your journey. Have you had great plans before and not followed through on them? You probably didn’t have a clear plan that enabled you to know what to do and stick to it. Big goals and dreams need a plan with bite-size steps so you don’t feel overwhelmed and lost. Showing up to your new commitment every day is so much easier when you feel clear and confident about it. And on those days when it does feel scary, you need to tap into your courage and resilience to keep going. This won’t be a problem if you paid enough attention to phase two. When you try and skip a phase you don’t give yourself a fighting chance to succeed. It looks like:
What phase are you best at and which one has definite room for improvement? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this and what you’re working on.  Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Ways to work with Melissa Join the Accelerator program - join the waitlist Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Join the free Facebook community - for daily content and great conversations
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Have you got a big ‘something’ that you’d really love to do but fear is stopping you from taking action on it? Is it time to finally start on that new business idea, get into public speaking, go on the adventure of a lifetime, or join that club with the cool social activities? Most of us have something. The fear that keeps you stuck often shows up in the form of excuses that are easy to buy into, such as, I don’t have enough time for that, I can’t afford it, or I don’t have what it takes. And don’t forget the favourite procrastination lie, “I’ll definitely do it one day, but now is not the right time.” Whatever excuses you come up with, they are all ways to keep you safe and comfortable, so you don’t have to take a chance on yourself. But here’s the thing, by not tapping into your courage and going for it, you are missing out on so much joy, fulfilment and personal growth. You might also miss out on a whole lot of fun, beautiful relationships, potential income, new skills and the magnificent ripple effect to all things that happens when you show up courageously in your own life. As an empowerment coach, my job is to help you shine. So here are three powerful ways to help you find your courage and take that big leap, no matter what you are jumping in to.  #1 What’s the worst that could happen? Ask yourself that exact question. If you say yes to yourself and leap big, what’s the worst thing that could happen? You might fail miserably, feel embarrassed, lose some money or be rejected by someone? Sounds horrible right? The unfortunate truth here is that anyone who has ever taken a risk on something uncertain has probably experienced one or all of these things at some point. The good news is that they also had great wins because they took a chance, they recovered from any setbacks and went on to do great things in life. The real fear comes when we believe that we won’t be able to handle the outcome, whatever it might be. People who feel confident to take risks, simply know that whatever happens, they’ll be able to handle it, even if it’s not pleasant, and they’ll move on. And I’d put money on the fact that you can think of an experience in your life when you thought you’d never recover, but one day you found yourself smiling and enjoying life again. First broken heart ring a bell anyone? You are far more resilient than you give yourself credit for, so you must know that whatever happens, you will be ok. But here’s an equally important question to ask and answer. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you say no and continue to live your life unchanged? Will you be kicking yourself and regretting it for the rest of your life? Will you remain unfulfilled and sad that your true desires continue to be ignored? Who will you become and how will you live if you don’t follow your dream? Take time to answer the question and write it down. This may be just the leverage you need to leap big. I’m nowhere near my deathbed as I write this but I’m certain those regrets are going to be a real bitch when I get there. Whatever you want to do in this life, do it now while you have the chance. #2 Get proactive about finding your courage Don’t wait for the moments you really need the courage and then wonder where it is. You can start small and do little things each day to expand your comfort zone. Go try that new activity with a friend, video yourself speaking on do a Facebook live, talk with a colleague, coach or understanding friend about your new business idea. Take little risks often to get comfortable being in the uncomfortable. You’ll quickly realise that you won’t collapse in heap and you’ll grow your courage muscles so they are strong when you need them for bigger things. #3 Name and embrace your fear, then say goodbye to it Fears that aren’t defined are deadly to your dreams and goals. Get super clear on what is actually going on for you by looking at and describing your fears in detail. Write it out. Give it a name. Often just by looking at it, instead of suppressing, shying away from or covering it with excuses, it becomes less scary. This happens because the fear becomes clear instead of a big, dark monster in the shadows that you don’t understand and can’t predict. When you face your fear, you empower yourself to do something about it, and the solutions often quickly follow. So my suggestion is that you look at it, name it, feel it and then decide you are going to take action despite it, because you realise you can handle whatever comes your way. Make that conscious choice to let it go, knowing that it doesn’t serve you. Use the three powerful methods to transform your relationship with your fears and allow yourself to act upon those beautiful dreams you keep within. When you shine brightly, you make the world a better place for the rest of us. When you invest in your own joy and fulfilment, the return on investment ripples throughout all areas of your life. It simply takes a little courage. I’d love to know what leap you are ready to take. Please let me know in the comments or write to me at melissa@melissakaycoaching.com.au  Meet Melissa Kay
A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Ways to work with Melissa Join the Accelerator program - join the waitlist Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Join the free Facebook community - for daily content and great conversations You create happiness in life, it’s not something that happens by default. Happiness isn’t just an emotional thing either. Research shows that happiness has a profound impact on your health, mental and physical well-being. So it’s time to get your happy on with these top 7 habits for happiness.  #1 Know What You Want Research shows that people who are clear on what they want, feel better in their life, and have more sense of purpose and direction. This makes sense because clarity helps you feel more peaceful, more at ease and more confident in what you need to do. Knowing what you want has been demonstrated time and time again as a key ingredient of success. Sometimes knowing what you want can feel difficult, but mostly it's because you haven't taken the time to ask the right questions and work it out for yourself. When you know what you want you’ll get much better results in life, which is going to boost your sense of achievement, making you feel happier. #2 Laugh Find ways to have a good laugh, to relax a bit and not take life too seriously. Even just for a few minutes a day, when you can let go of your stress and busyness, find something funny, amusing or evening just smile at the absurdity of it all. Laughter has been researched extensively and proven to have not only major emotional and psychological benefits but physical ones as well. #3 Do Something that Scares You What is something that you're actually afraid of, that you've been putting off, avoiding, or plain out refusing to do? It's time that you face up to your fears and make progress by actually tackling it, or at the very least looking at it. This is known as stretching your comfort zone. Each time that you move out of your comfort zone, even if it's terrifying at the moment, it feels amazing afterwards. You’ll feel accomplished, proud, and more capable than you did before. Tackling new challenges on a regular basis, doing something that you're afraid of each day, well lead you to a happier and more fulfilling life. #4 Move It We all know the physical benefits of physical activity but exercise is not just for your body. There is a strong correlation between your emotional and mental well-being and physical exercise. Regular daily activity is an absolute essential for a happy life. The bottom line is, it makes you feel good. You don’t need to become a gym junkie unless you want to, but you must move every day. The key is to make your exercise fun so you actually want to do it. Go for a walk, crank up the music and jump around the house, take a yoga or dance class. If running, biking, aerobics or sweat sessions at the gym are your thing, do that too.  # 5 Give and Receive This could be two separate habits, but I've put them as one because I want you to pay attention to keeping these in balance. Too many women are great at giving and forget about the receiving part. Giving could look like contributions, helping others out, volunteering, taking care of family, donating money, time or energy. Giving brings a huge emotional feel-good factor to your life, contributing to your happiness. Find ways that you can easily give to others. Important - It’s not meant to be a burden. True giving should not be an inconvenience or cause you stress, it’s meant to feel good. Find ways that you can receive. Receiving could look like asking for help, and allowing others to contribute to you. Be open to those who want to help you, know how worthy you are of receiving time, energy, gifts and money into your world. Many women don't like to ask for help but this is something I ask you to get over right now. You don't have to be responsible for everything and everyone and there are people in this world who want to help you. Stop blocking the flow of goodness to yourself and allow others the joy of giving to you. # 6 Gratitude Focus on what is working, focus on what is going well in your life. Practice gratitude daily. One of the easiest ways to do this is to write down every day a few things that you're grateful for and a few things that are working well. This simple activity will help you to slow down and notice all the good and abundance that is in your life, and the natural result is that you will feel happier. It will rapidly shift your perspective and perception. It's very easy to stay stuck and focused on the things that go wrong each day and totally miss the things that go right. # 7 Forgiveness Forgiveness is not about condoning something that has happened or letting someone off the hook who has done something unacceptable. Forgiveness is about letting yourself out of that dynamic. You can't overdose on forgiveness and I suggest that you forgive everyone and everything that has ever done anything wrong by you. Remember it’s not about the other person or situation, this is about freeing yourself so that you can get on with living a full life. Forgive quickly as things happen, let go, don't hold grudges, and feel how much lighter you become. There are simple practices that you can do to forgive and let go. Nothing, no matter how awful it might seem, is worth holding onto and feeling the pain of every day. You are only hurting yourself when you hold onto it. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness so that you can become who you are truly meant to be. What’s next for you? It’s time to show up more powerfully and joyfully in your life. You can grab the 7 Happiness Habits workbook for free (includes checklist and activities you can do today) and start creating more happiness in your life. You can book in for a free 20 minute chat with me to discover how you can stop procrastinating and doubting your big goals, take charge and bring your dreams to life.  Meet Melissa Kay
A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Ways to work with Melissa Join the Accelerator program - join the waitlist Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Join the free Facebook community - for daily content and great conversations Is a lack of confidence holding you back or stopping you from taking action on your dreams? I know it’s stopped me in my tracks plenty of times. But you know what? Confidence is nothing more than a feeling of certainty that you create within yourself. That’s right, YOU create it. Many people think that it’s a trait. It’s something you either have or don’t have. That idea is so misleading and leaves you feeling helpless. But the successful people of the world know better. They are not free from doubt or uncertainty, they simply know how to take charge of themselves and change those feelings into more resourceful ones. Being confident is nothing more than believing in yourself and trusting that you can handle the outcome of whatever happens. If there’s something you want in your life but you’ve been too afraid to go for it, here are a few simple ways you can boost your confidence right now. Don’t wait for someday when it might feel better, or go without because you believe you’re just not confident enough to take action. Up your confidence right now and get started.  #1 Understand and feel confident already with focus Remembering that confidence is something you create will shift your perspective and instantly put the power back in your hands. You CAN do something about it! Confidence is a feeling that you already know, and it lives inside of you when you think of areas of your life in which you excel. What are you great at? Where do you show up as your best? What do you feel completely competent and confident about? Answer these questions and tap into the feeling you get when you focus on those things. There you go, you just created the feeling of confidence inside yourself. #2 Create confidence by using your body Describe a confident person. How do they walk, talk, breathe, speak? If you can describe them it’s because you already know how you need to move your body if you want to feel confident. When you are in an unresourceful or negative state, you will likely hunch over, drop your eyes, and forget to breathe properly. You can create different feelings in your body by changing how you move. If you want to feel confident, move like you would if you did. #3 Visualize the outcome you want Instead of asking “what if it doesn’t work out?” and thinking about everything that could go wrong, imagine the outcome you really want. Visualizing yourself doing that thing or achieving that goal is like a practice run for your success. See it and feel it working. And what happens when you practice something over and over? You get better at it. When you visualise with emotion, your mind can’t tell if it’s happening in real life or not and so you’ll grow your confidence before you even take on the challenge for real. Building confidence may take a little time and persistence but with the right focus and energy, you can be certain that you can achieve whatever you set your mind and heart to. That’s the kind of confidence that will have you taking consistent action toward your big dreams and goal. What are already confident about? I’d love to hear about it. Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.  There’s never been a better time to begin your own online business! It’s true, I’ve got to agree, this is where the world is headed and you have ample opportunity to be a part of it. But the reality is that whilst anybody with even minimal resources can get started, not many people build a viable business let alone a financially successful one. I’m a mindset mentor and so I will tell you to keep focused on the outcome that you want but I know that wishful thinking and positivity alone won’t get you there. Getting real and honest about it is a GOOD thing and puts the power back in your hands to truly create your own path. So whether you’ve already started or you’re still in the ideas phase, there are a few things to be super clear on so you’re not BSing yourself.  Misconception #1: It’s quick and easy to get started. Sure it is if you’ve had a business before and you know your way around business legislation, taxes, social media, website creation, branding, marketing, and the list goes on. The experts tell you, do x,y, and z, and you’ll be up and running in just a few short days. That sounds perfect only they forget to mention that x,y, and z each have 100 different moving parts, many of which you don’t understand. So can you really get started quickly and easily? Well you can decide a business name and register and set up a simple website and a Facebook page in a few days. The majority won’t be making money in the first few days, sometimes weeks or even months. Now, am I trying to depress you or deter you from starting your business? Hell no! The message is this; if you don’t know what you’re doing, don’t expect it to be quick and easy, you’ll only be frustrated and disappointed. Reality #1: There’s a steep learning curve in the beginning and it will take some time. If you want to speed up the process, get yourself a mentor or a coach who can show each step along the way. Misconception #2 Follow my business formula and you’ll be an overnight success. Every expert and non-expert will be shouting at you to do it this way and do it that way. In other words, do it their way. Here’s the thing, no strategy is one size fits all and you may need to shop around. Better still, learn the fundamentals, the timeless strategies of success, build a strong foundation, and adapt your strategy until it works for you. But Melissa, you just said to get a mentor to show you each step of the way. Yes I did! The point is, don’t assume that it’s the only way and that someone else’s strategy will truly be a fit for your personality, lifestyle, other obligations, etc. Reality #2: Not all strategies are equal for you. No forty-something woman with three children at home can realistically take on the strategy of a 20-year-old hustler. The message; be smart, be discerning when choosing who you model your strategy from, and stay honest with yourself about what is working and what isn’t. Misconception #3 Build it and they will come. Start your business, it’s easy, it’s fun, just do this and that and you’ll have a line-up of people waiting to work with you. I’ve lost count of how many clients thought they just needed to build a website and then wait. I call total BS on this idea and if this is your belief then it’s time for a big reality check. Your new business has potential. But it takes YOU showing up consistently and taking massive action to get it going. And honestly folks, this is where most people come undone. Many give up the moment they become uncomfortable and retreat with a bunch of excuses as to why it didn’t work out. Reality #3: If you’re new to business, you’ll need to grow in yourself in order to grow your business. To grow your business and attract clients you will need courage, persistence, visibility, clarity, and be putting yourself out there and making offers. So by all means put up your ‘open for business’ sign but don’t be fooled into thinking that’s all you need to do. Develop your mindset for success, become courageous, and resilient on your new and exciting business adventure. So there you have it. Love it? Hate it? Let me know. Wish it were different? Yep, me too. Willing to go for it anyway? If this article hasn’t put you off growing your own online business then reach up with one hand right now and pat yourself on the back. But don’t stop there… what step do you need to take next to get the support, guidance, and accountability to make sure you follow through and succeed? What do you need to learn or do differently? Make your plan of action and get to it because the world is waiting for what you have to offer. Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Dream. Courage. Action These are three words that I am madly in love with. Want to know why? I believe that these three little words can make the difference between existing and thriving. As long as you don’t forget them, it may mean the difference between an exceptional life and a mediocre one, a life well-lived, or just getting by. I’m terrified of getting to the end of my life and having regrets. Not of the things I’ve done, but of the things I left undone. Most of us live life as if we’ve got unending years to pursue our dreams and make good shit happen. I’m starting to realize that a lifetime is fleeting. I’m starting to realize that I, like many of you, may not ever do all the wonderful things I want to do in my life. So before this becomes depressing rather than inspiring, let’s get back to those 3 magical words and back to purposefully creating our lives.  Dream. Do you do it? Do you dream big enough? Your life is yours and it’s up to you to live it in a way that is fulfilling for you. That means ditching everyone else’s expectations and finding your path. Give yourself permission to dream as big and wild as you like. Own your life! Courage. Have you got it? Do you need more of it? Living a full life means you’ll have to become a bit of a risk-taker, willing to try different things. You might need to awaken your courage but don’t try and fool yourself into saying you don’t have any. If you have a dream inside of you then the courage and drive to bring it to life is inside of you as well. Action. Is this where you get stuck? Taking action on your dream is where most people come undone. It seems like a great idea until you have to actually make the changes and take a chance. This is where many opt for safety instead and settle for mediocrity. It’s so tempting to put it on the backburner when you think you have a lifetime to do it and you can do it later when conditions are better. If you’ve come this far, dreaming your dream and finding the courage to go for it, DO NOT stop here. Take your beautiful dream and make a plan for it and start taking action on it every day. Even if it’s the tiniest of steps in that direction, done every day will keep your dream alive and build momentum. Starting TODAY, what action can you take to get closer to your dream? There is no better time to begin, no other day or year where it will be easier, nobody else who can do it for you. Dream big Awaken your courage Take action today Remember these words every day and your life will be intentional and filled with the right kind of magic that makes so amazing for you. Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Have you had one of those days when it started out wrong and just got worse from there? What about one where you woke up feeling great and everything seemed to work out all day long? It’s true that how you start the day has a massive impact on the rest of it. How you’ll feel, what you’ll achieve, your amount of inspiration and happiness. It is, of course, possible to turn a bad start into a great day but I’m lazy so I think why bother with all that extra time and energy putting out fires when you can just get it right, to begin with. It’s absolutely worth setting yourself up with an awesome morning routine that is going to help you win each day. Here’s the thing about your sleep time. When you sleep, your thoughts lose momentum and slow down enough for you to rest and reset. When you wake, they pick up again, often from where you left off the day before. If you’re smart, you’ll do what you can to shape and direct your thoughts from the moment you wake until they have momentum again. What you do in the first 30-60 minutes of your day is super important. So how can you better direct your thoughts each morning?  Aside from making sure you get enough sleep so you’re not waking up tired and cranky, here are 5 easy and powerful ways to pack that first hour full of positivity.
It’s not about following a specific routine, it’s about finding what works well for you and making it your routine. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes to start your day in a high-vibe and focused way, and over time you’ll experience the powerful gift of taking time for yourself on a regular basis. Consistency is key, so pick one thing to add in and gradually build your perfect morning routine. Ways to work with Melissa
Join the Accelerator program - join the waitlist Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Join the free Facebook community - for daily content and great conversations Feels like there is a never-ending to-do list and a million things that you could be working on right? Here’s a little truth-bomb. It feels that way because it is that way. Exactly why you need clarity and organization in your business to save you time, energy, and money. Many people are afraid of structure and systems, thinking it will limit them somehow, but they are the same people who are struggling and stuck in overwhelm. Keeping it simple, here are the first 3 steps to take to stop wasting time and start being productive.  #1 Know what your goal is Lack of clarity around what to do next is often the precursor to overwhelm, procrastination, ineffective use of your precious time, and a lessening of confidence in your ability to get good results. The solution is simple. Set clearly defined and compelling goals. Then create your to-do (tasks) list in order of priority, from the task that will have the biggest impact on reaching your desired outcome, to the ones that have the least. You’ll probably even be able to let go of a few tasks all together or delegate them to someone else. If you don’t know what you need to be working on this week or today, go back to clarity and goals first. #2 Get scheduling Grab your calendar or planner and figure out what needs to be done and by when it needs to be done. Plan, prioritize, and schedule your week so you know exactly what’s coming and roughly how long it will take. Always plan the week ahead by scheduling in whatever can be scheduled. Allocate a day and a time slot and stick to your plan as closely as possible. Leave spaces for unexpected twists in the road and choose just 2-3 main tasks per day. You’ll immediately feel more clarity and less stress, simply by having a good schedule. And bonus benefit, when your brain knows what to expect, it’s much more likely to get on board so you actually follow through, boosting your productivity. #3 Automate and delegate What are the tasks that need to be done every day that can be automated or delegated? Invoices, follow up emails, social media posting, new client onboarding, appointment bookings, and reminders, etc. are just a few things that can be easily automated in any business, for free. What’s one thing you could easily change right now that would save you time every week? What about getting help by hiring an assistant or social media manager? How many hours would that save you and what brilliant things could you create with your extra time? Do one of these things and watch how dramatically things improve. Do all three and you’re on your way to a business that is organized and efficient. Not only will you get more done, you’ll feel empowered and confident when you know what you are doing. Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.  Ways to work with Melissa Join the Accelerator program - join the waitlist Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Join the free Facebook community - for daily content and great conversations I know you’re excited and highly focused on growing your business and there’s so much to do. It really can be incredibly time and energy-consuming. All the more reason why I’m going to make a case for excellent self-care right now. You see, even when you love what you do, you can burn out if you’re not paying attention to the very heart of your business. That’s you! Without you, your business isn’t going anywhere. So if you’re pushing too hard, lacking healthy boundaries or neglecting your relationship, health, kids, friends, or whatever… take these 5 top tips to heart now and do something about it before it’s too late. [Quick note - burnout is not fun nor is it a badge of honour. It’s shit. Period.]  #1 Get organized in your business and in your life Grab your calendar or planner and figure out what needs to be done and by when it needs to be done. Plan, prioritize, and schedule your week so you know exactly what’s coming and roughly how long it will take. You’ll immediately feel more clarity and less stress, simply by having a good plan. And bonus benefit, when your brain knows what to expect, it’s much more likely to get on board so you actually follow through on your plan. #2 Communicate your needs to others Do you expect everyone around you to read your mind and know what you need? Check-in often with yourself on what you need, and learn to express it to your partner, children, friends, co-workers, employees, etc. Do you need quiet time to focus, time alone, a hug, someone else to do that admin task, a romantic dinner date, a friendly ear? Have the conversations with the people who can help and give them the opportunity to support you. #3 Learn to say no Stop feeling obligated to say yes to every single person who asks for your time and energy. You may even need to prioritize your work or your self-care over something you enjoy, like going out for coffee with your girlfriend on a moment’s notice. Plan it in at a time that truly works for you and doesn’t de-rail the rest of your day. Quit chasing every shiny object and rabbit hole in the entrepreneurial world. It’s the information age and you are signing yourself up for overwhelm and stress if you are constantly distracted and never completing anything. Pick what is relevant to your path and apply it. #4 Get enough downtime away from the business Life is not all work and no play and seriously, your brain needs to switch off from the business sometimes. It’s the only way to refresh and recharge and funnily enough, some of my best ideas pop up after downtime. Read a book, workout, take a walk, watch a funny movie, go dancing, or have a conversation with a friend about what’s going on for them. There are a thousand ways you can have downtime. I’d suggest doing what feels great and fills your cup. If you feel stressed and pushed for time as it is, schedule your downtime into your week and day and DO NOT skip it because you need to respond to that email or post about your lunch on social media. Everyone can find time in their week for what’s important to them. So it’s your time to make self-care more important. #5 Go outside and feel the elements We know that fresh air, sunshine, and nature provide amazing benefits to our minds and bodies. This one is particularly useful if you spend too much time in your office, staring at the computer screen. There’s a whole world out there and you’ll feel so much better for being a part of it. So drink your next coffee in the backyard or on your balcony, go for that afternoon walk on the beach or around the neighborhood and take time to notice what’s outside your four walls. Yes, there are a million other self-care tips you can use, but I wanted to dig deep and find just a handful that will have a huge impact on your wellbeing. If it still feels difficult to get started, just pick one, implement it for a couple of weeks and be amazed at the difference it makes. Let me know how you go with leveling-up your self-care so you can sustain your business growth and success. Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.  Ways to work with Melissa
Join the Accelerator program - join the waitlist Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Join the free Facebook community - for daily content and great conversations If I were less emotional I’d probably get a lot more done. But I’m not a robot, I’m a fully functioning human being, the real deal, messy as it can be at times. There is often a super high expectation placed upon the entrepreneur to be this high-performance machine, avoiding the lows at all costs and being productive all the damn time. How unrealistic are we? Perhaps you even hold yourself to that expectation (you wouldn’t be the first). Your emotions are never wrong! [ “What? But Melissa you are always saying I need to stay high vibe, feeling good.” ] Ok, let me explain. Your emotions always have a message for you and the more you look and listen, the easier it’ll be to work through the low times. Heck, nobody wants to stay in that feel-crap place right? I get it, you do want to be productive and moving toward your dream. Running in circles or having your feet stuck in cement just ruins your shoes. But you never want to make your emotions wrong. That is a surefire way to cut off your connection to your own truth and honest communication with yourself and others. Nobody wins with this approach. Instead of feeling ‘wrong’ when you’re not feeling good, many of the world’s best coaches suggest that you get curious instead. Learn to be ok in whatever the feeling is and search for the message it’s delivering. This is far more useful and can actually help you solve the problem.  Accepting your emotions and working with them rather than fighting them is going to feel so much easier and get you back to a powerful, beautiful, productive state sooner. You will bypass the suffering and get better at managing your emotions. Which is good for your sanity and your business. It’s helpful to remember that whatever uncomfortable emotion you are experiencing, you’ve probably been there before. Instead of crumbling every time things go wrong, you can remind yourself that you will get through it. You have evidence in your past, that the sun will shine again. So you’ve got this! You’ve been through it before and you can handle it today and if it happens again in the future, you’ve got that too. Which if you really think about it, is kind of exciting. Permission granted to feel any and all emotions, and tune in to what’s going on rather than suppressing it, and the confidence that whatever may come, you can handle it. Now you are mastering your emotions and building resilience and not wasting so much time and energy pretending everything is hunky-dory (for my overseas readers, that means alright) when it’s not. To sweeten the deal, the more you take charge of your emotional world, the more you‘ll begin to embrace the idea that you can, in fact, respond to events in your life, however you choose. But let’s dive into that next time. Want to learn more about emotional mastery? Connect with me in my community where we have great conversations about empowered life and business.   Meet Melissa Kay A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love. Join the Accelerator program - uplevel your life and business Work with Melissa VIP style - 1:1 coaching packages Get the free Design Your Life workbook |
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