Too often life and business becomes overwhelming and dissatisfying with all the things we should be doing. And it defeats the purpose of both which is to enjoy.
Whilst there will always be stuff that just needs to get done, you can help yourself out by ensuring the goals you set are ones that are going to light up your life instead of stress you out.
Follow these guidelines and you’ll be following a path true to your heart in no time.
Clear values make goalsetting easy
Do you know your highest and truest values? The things that are most important to you?
If you’re not sure, just look at where you spend most of your time, energy and money. That’s where you’ll find the answers because those things are obviously meaningful to you.
If one of your top values is family time, don’t set goals that require you to work 80hrs/week. You’ll burn out and be miserable.
If one of your top values is to have a greater impact through your work, you might set a goal such as creating an online course, writing a book, learning public speaking, starting a FB group, or a goal to scale your business.
Do not set any goals that are in contradiction to your top values.
Follow your own guiding star in life and business
Do not set any goals are that are not in alignment with your personal top values or don’t make you feel good. This can be achieved by always staying true to yourself and following your own guiding star.
What is your guiding star?
For example, if your guiding star is making a lot of money you could easily start an Amazon business selling $2 plastic bits out of China for $20 apiece. If your guiding star was time freedom to be with your family, you might set goals that allow you to take school holidays and weekends off.
My actual guiding star is genuine positive impact - to help others to better their lives and so the goals I set in my business all align to that, first and foremost. Meaningful contribution is high on my values list.
What guiding star do you want to follow in your life or business?
Follow your guiding star, it’s the MOST important thing to consider.
Do not set goals that are arbitrary or soulless
Ask yourself “is this goal truly mine or am I chasing something because that’s what everyone else is doing?”
Sometimes what we think is important turns out to be imposed upon us by others. It might be social idealisms, your parent’s values, your partner or even your friends. Do you really want the house and 2.5 kids? Is a six-figure business your true value?
If you’ve lived your life according to a set of standards created by someone else, chances are you've experienced feeling 'out of alignment' plenty of times.
Some sure signs of not honouring your highest values include feeling anger, blame, criticism or despair toward yourself. These are called the ABCD's of negativity and you'll experience them after you have failed to follow through on something you should have done.
How many 'should' goals have you got and do you know what YOUR highest values are?
How much better would your life become if you lived in alignment with what matters the most to you?
Feel good goals are the only way to go
Your goals need to help you achieve the feelings you want to feel.
Think about how you want to FEEL in your life or business next year.
Excited. Alive. Inspired. Productive. Accomplished. Important. Successful. Capable. Adventurous. Making a difference. Growing. Freedom. Creative. Innovative.
There is always a feeling you are hoping to achieve that underlies any goal you set.
For example, take the common goal of having a 6-figure business.
It’s a great milestone and I’m all for setting money targets, however...
I used to have this goal, like so many others, but it was an empty thing to be chasing. It did not keep me going on the days when things felt tough.
I ditched it and focused on goals that would create impact, inspire myself and others, contribute to the world, excite me, challenge me (as growth is high on my values list) and allow me to be creative.
And you know what, when you show up consistently to your compelling and aligned goals, the money will follow.
So how do you want to FEEL and is working toward your goal going to give you that feeling?
Know what you love, know what’s most important to you.
Know what YOU want and how you want to feel.
Set your goals accordingly and you won’t go wrong.
If you need any help with sorting through the noise to identify your truest values and make a plan for 2022 that will serve you on your own terms, send me a message or check out the exciting Black Friday special on 90-minute intensives.
Meet Melissa Kay
A mother, lover of life, personal growth, and good coffee, Melissa has a passion for inspiring and helping others to dream big and take action. She owns and runs Melissa Kay Coaching where she focuses on empowerment and lasting transformation, so her clients can create a life and business they truly love.
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Melissa Kay Schulz
Coffee lover, mother, salsa dancer and mindset coach for entrepreneurs.