We are undeniably in crazy times and more than ever we need to take care of ourselves and those around us.

This week each day at 5 pm AEST I've been live on my profile for 'Happy Hour with Mel' sharing tips and ideas on how to manage your emotional state so you can remain as functional and well as possible.

Watch yesterdays Happy Hour here (13mins) and pop it in your calendar to join me daily at 5 pm. 

Here's why you want to feel as good as possible during these trying times:

1. the better you feel the more you get done (the more you can help yourself and others)
2. when you are stressed you're not thinking clearly and will make poorer choices
3. once you spiral into negativity it's difficult to maintain perspective
4. feeling good has numerous health benefits including supporting your immune system
5. if you are in a leadership position (in your business, community or family - hello all parents!) the better you feel the more you can support others and lead by example.

Watch the video to hear my suggestions on super easy ways to stay positive each day and get yourself out of a funk if you fall into one.

There has never been a better time to learn or put your self-management skills into practice. It's time to step up.

With love,
MelissaP.S. If you are ready to show up more powerfully in your life or in business I've made a handful of free 30-min strategy sessions available over the next couple of weeks. 
I’m ready to help you with clarity, confidence, courage and plan to take action and turn your desires into your reality.
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This question has had my attention for quite some time now...

How does one go from living a quiet life of desperation to living an inspiring, powerful, intentional life? Everyday!

How do we do it? It’s something I keep obsessing about because I have a deadly fear of mediocrity. How do you function with all your responsibilities, relationships, children, a business to run, and still feel like you are truly ALIVE AND IN LIFE?

Well, obviously I don’t have it all figured out. but I PROMISE you I’m getting major clarity around this for myself and my clients. In fact, it’s a big part of my brand new 2020 program (more on this soon).
Today I want to offer you three of my top tips for feeling joyful and alive in your life:

 #1 Make sure that you plan fun things into your life. 
So damn simple and somehow so easily forgotten. What is it that brings you tremendous joy? Sit with that question for a few minutes, write down a few things and then make sure that you are doing them on a regular basis. Is it a date night with your lover or a trip to the beach? Is it a yoga class or reading a book with a cup of tea? Or is it something a bit more exciting like pole dancing perhaps? Whatever it is, stop it with the self-neglect and put it in your diary now.

 #2 When you are doing those fun things make sure you are present in the moment with them. 
I don’t know how many times I’ve gone to the beach and still been working in my head or still stuck in the stresses I currently have. When you are doing the fun things, let the rest go. Commit to being there fully, so that when you get home from the beach you don’t feel like nothing has changed. Engage fully in the activity so that you actually reap the benefits of that joy or fun or excitement.
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 #3 Practice gratitude every day. 
Now you might say “oh Melissa not gratitude again, surely that doesn’t fix everything?” But let me tell you why I always come back to it.
When you make time to acknowledge the good in your life, the things you’re grateful for, the things that are working, the perception of your life will quickly shift. If you currently feel like life is a bitch, if you feel like you’re living that mediocre, boring, dull, monotonous life, I promise you when you start to pay attention to the things that are good, you’ll start to feel differently. You’ll start to see more, and you may just recognise that it ain’t so bad after all.

Let me know how you go with this and if you need help making a plan on how to make your life more enjoyable why not jump on one of my 30-minute strategy sessions this week. Just send me a message or you can find the booking link below. Whatever you do, don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you want some help on this. I hear you, I see you, I feel you and best of all I know that it can be different.
With love,
Melissa

Book in for a free 30-min strategy session hereP.S. If it turns out that you seriously have no joy your pleasure in your life whatsoever, well my recommendation would be to use that as a good kick up the bum. Tap into that dissatisfaction and decide that you’re gonna do something about it today. Nobody else well. Then get in touch. 


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I have ‘moments’ often where something isn’t going the way that I want it to and I lose my cool. This is especially true when the car in front of me is doing 80 in the 100 zone. Or situations where I start to feel sad or angry or frustrated or helpless. 
 I'm okay with that because practicing resilience and getting better at managing yourself in any given moment doesn’t mean that you become immune to your feelings. And it doesn’t mean that you get to just avoid those feelings, or that you get to avoid the shitty situations that cause those feelings.
 It simply means that you bounce back quicker. You don’t get a free ticket out, but you get out faster. Like the ‘get out of jail free’ card in Monopoly. You still have to go there, but you don’t have to stay. Great right? 
Then you can get back to being your usual positive, happy or calm self quicker and get on with your day. The flow-on effect is that you get more done and you feel better more often. Your quality of life goes up dramatically.


So here's what you can do if this is you too...There are a lot of ways that you can become more resilient, to manage yourself better in the moment, or to respond differently when things don’t work out the way you’d wanted. But nobody said it was easy. 
 In fact, it’s something that takes practice. It’s a skill that you practice over and over again until you get good at it. Over the years I’ve gotten better at managing my emotions and coming back to myself quicker. But sometimes when I’m having ‘a moment’ I forget what I need to do. I just can’t even remember what I’m supposed to do!
 I might message my partner, expecting someone else to tell me what to do. His response is usually along the lines of “just take a deep breath, you know this will pass.” 
 Such simple advice and usually works. So why is it that in the moment, with me knowing so much that I know, I can’t remember to take a deep breath and trust in the fact that this feeling will pass?


Well, the simplified answer is because when your brain is in a state of stress, you can’t think straight. You literally are not functioning the same way as when you’re in a relaxed and calm state. This means that what you know now when you’re calm, is not what you know when you’re stressed out and reacting from a place of emotion rather than responding from a place of logic.
 So if you ever have that experience where you lose your cool and you’d like to ‘get out of it faster’ here’s one of my favourite ways to begin building your bounce back muscle.
 

1. When you’re in a calm and positive state - write down a list of things that you know absolutely work to help you feel better. Some suggestions are to breathe deeply, walk outside, take a shower, jump in the pool etc.  It can be anything that you know absolutely works for you. 
   
2. Keep that list handy in your wallet or pocket or somewhere in the house easily accessible. Tell the people you live with where your list is as well if you want to.
   
3. When you start to lose your cool - pull out your list, pick one thing from the list (any one thing will do), and force yourself to do it. 
   
4. Do not overthink step 3, just do. You probably won’t feel like doing it because a part of you would rather stay upset (more on this another time). 
   
5. After you’ve escaped the initial emotional charge (aka. jail) look at your list again and do another of your feel-good activities to bring yourself back to YOU.
   

 I hope this helps and wish you a wonderful and joyful week ahead. 
xoxo
Melissa
 PS Need more help to feel better in your life? Don’t forget you can book a free strategy session with me anytime. Let’s have a chat and see if I can help you get back on track. ​

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Last week I stood up in front of a room of people and admitted that I, the mindset and positive transformation coach, had come close to burnout just a few months ago.

I had let my game slip. I had forgotten to take the best care of myself and I had allowed the stress of life to get the better of me.

I figure if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone.

Only not everyone has the same skills and knowledge to recognise approaching burnout and the tools to make changes before they hit rock bottom.

Once I began recovering (aka getting my shit together again) I decided to document the most effective things that I did for getting back on track. 

They are simple things, but they are often too easily overlooked in our busy lives.

So if you would like to check out the essentials for staying on track with a strong mindset, you can find 4 short videos based on the talk I gave right here.

• #1 Set goals with soul 3 mins
• #2 Priorities vs to-do's 3 mins
• #3 Ask better questions 2 mins
• #4 Celebrate your wins 3 mins

xox
Melissa

P.S. If you know someone who might need this info, just hit forward and send them this email.

P.P.S. Next week I'm giving away a whole bunch of free 45-minute clarity coaching sessions. If you'd like to be first in to find out more before I announce it to my wider audience, just reply to this email and let me know you're keen. 

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The other day when I was having a moment (aka little tantrum) about something that wasn't working, my coach totally challenged me on it.

He said that I'm living in the 'what if it doesn't work out' world. It makes me sad, it makes me hopeless, and it fills me with doubt. 

Then he went on to say, "you know Melissa, you've really given this way of thinking a good try. You've thoroughly explored the 'what if it doesn't work out' approach, and it hasn't gotten you very far."

What if?

"What if you just started living like it is possible?" he said.

I couldn't argue with him so I decided to go with it.

The thing is, we all have doubts and fears and it's a really normal part of being human.

We all invest time and energy asking the questions "what if?"

Since you're asking anyway, why not start asking "what if it does work out?".

"What if it is possible?"

I'm betting the results you get will be so much better.

If you'd like to hear more of my take on this, check out this video that I actually made 6 months ago. I'm going to shut up and listen to myself.

Perhaps a little shift in mindset might go a long way for you also.

xox Melissa

PS. If you need some help to get back on the self-belief train, let's have a chat. That's one thing coaches can do, look from the outside in, and help you see more clearly.
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Less than 48 hours into the new year. How are you doing?

I ask this question because the New Year often has this wonderful energy with it that can quickly disappear once the calendar has ticked over a couple of days.

Now you have whole year ahead to do with whatever you please. And it doesn't matter if your goals for this year include building an empire or baking a cake, this is your year to shine.

Here are a few things that I'd like you to remember this year:

• life is short, precious and unpredictable - don't hold back on your dreams
• you are amazing and capable of so much more than you might think
• self-doubt is a waste of time - nothing happens unless you try
• your life is for living - balance work, play, fun, contribution and responsibilities as much as you can
• take excellent care of yourself always

Wishing you the most wonderful of new beginnings.
xox
Melissa

P.S. I've got a few 90min planning sessions available for just $199 (to use by 31st Jan), click here to schedule and use the code goals2020 for a huge $298 off, if you'd like to make sure you keep the momentum throughout January. 

P.P.S. If you've got kids at these holidays and need to stay active in your business check out this week's giveaway below - feel free to pass it on to any friends who might need it too. 

Giveaway Free PDF Download
If you've got kids at home these holidays and you're wondering how you're going to pull off this business and family 'adventure' then grab this:


10 Top Holiday Hacks for Entrepreneurial MumsStay productive and sane in your business these school holidays without neglecting the kids
The struggle is real! As a single mum for many years, I know how challenging this time of year can be.


So if you need/want to get stuff done in your business these holidays check out my tried and tested ideas for taking care of both your family and your biz.


Let me know in the comments if you want it and I'll send you the link.
Inside you'll find ideas for

• how to get everything out of your head and into an organised and prioritised system that you can follow
• how to be more effective with the time you do have
• how to plan with and around the family to keep everyone happy (well close enough 😜)
• how to find the extra support you need
• a bonus checklist to make sure you've got it covered and much more

Here's to awesome holidays and thriving business 😍
Enjoy xoxo

I want to wish you a happy holiday and all the best for the start of the New Year.

This time of year means different things to different people, but whatever you are up to, I hope you are having fun and surrounded by awesome people.

I managed to participate in Christmas day lunch at my mum's place but for the rest, I've been hanging at my place with a nasty, tropical infection that made one side of my face look like a balloon, and hurt like *#$%. 

Not so much fun, but I've still got my first team (aka. family) around who will play Monopoly and Uno with me no matter what I look like. 

And in just a few days from now, we kick off the new decade! Can you believe it?
 So I'm taking this opportunity to say thank you to all the wonderful people who have worked with me during 2019.

It was a big year with the launch of a new program back in February. With 18 amazing entrepreneurs, developing their internal strengths and resilience to be more effective and powerful than ever in their business.


My 1:1 clients whom I just love working with, getting to know them so closely, helping them to overcome the challenges they face to achieve their goals and celebrating their successes with them.


And more recently my VIP Mastermind clients, who are finishing 2019 strong and ready to fly into the New Year with clarity, confidence and momentum to make it their best year yet.

Not to forget my wonderful audience and Facebook community members. Without you, I'd be talking to myself! Thank you for your support. 


To all my wonderful clients, past, present and future. It is a pleasure working with you and thank you with all my heart for trusting me to support you on your journey.


Here's to an amazing year ahead!
xox Melissa 

P.S. Below is a pic of my awesome people (with me pre, face blow up). 

Do you know the #1 reason you don’t follow through on your goals?

It’s because you don’t want it that bad. It’s not a must, or it’s not that interesting, or it’s not that relevant, or it’s not exciting enough.

Your goals must be compelling otherwise you'll forget about them as soon as it gets too difficult.
 
I know you’ve had an experience at some time in your life where you just had to have/do something and you found a way to do it, no matter what. Even if it was really difficult. It was compelling enough for you to follow through!
 
So, today I want to give you a few tips for making sure your goals are compelling and hopefully exciting as well.

• Your goal must be important to you. If you don’t care about it you won’t do it 

• Your goals should be truly yours, not what someone else wants for you

• You must know why you want that goal. Your reasons must be convincing and remember it’s often not the goal itself that is the end result you seek. It’s the promise of the feelings that having or doing it will bring.

• Set your goals with the right amount of difficulty, so they are inspiring and not disheartening.

• Be as detailed and specific as you can so you feel clear and confident in what are you working toward.

• Don’t forget to set goals that create fun, pleasure and joy in your life. It’s not supposed to be all one hard slog

• And of course, once you have your goal you need to create a plan of action for it.

 
Your plan of action for the new year is crucial to whether or not you will follow through on your goals.

Now that you’re getting all these awesome goals in place, it might feel both exciting and overwhelming at the same time. I get it.

You may have even set fantastic goals before and then become totally frustrated when you weren’t able to pull it off. I definitely know how this feels.

If you’re committed to living your best year yet, I want to help you create your unique strategy to kick off 2020 in a way that you feel totally clear and confident about what you're doing.
 
This week I’m offering a 90min super strategy session in which we’ll pull together YOUR 90-day action plan so that you know step by step, exactly how you are going to approach your goals and make them happen.
 
I’ve decided to make a few of these sessions available for only AU$197, so if you’re serious about your exciting goals for 2020, you can secure your session with me today and get all the clarity and momentum you need for your best year yet. Sessions are normally $497 so use the code goals2020 to get a massive $300 off this week.
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Talk soon,
Melissa

PS I know you've got big dreams for 2020. Your super strategy session is your roadmap to get you there. Book it in now to grab it as this special price or message me for more details.  I can't wait to help you. 

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